Potty training is a stressful phase for moms and dads. Especially if you are potty training boys, it can be extra challenging to train stubborn boys. Some experts say that boys stay a little longer in diapers than girls. They believe boys are more active, so they just do not want to ditch diapers. Another reason could be since girls share the same gender as moms’ so it is easier for them to relate.
Typically, during pre-potty training phase, we have too many concerns, like; How to potty train boys?
What schedule to follow when you are in the process of potty training?
Most importantly, when is the right time to start potty training?
In this post, I am going to cover all these questions.
Some moms may have been successful in training their kids around as early as 18 months to 2 years old, regardless of gender. Readiness may vary for every kid so you should not ignore signs to see when your child is ready.
If you are struggling with potty training your boy, then these tips are for you. Read on these helpful tips on potty training boys.
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Potty Training Tips for boys
Here are the tips that works best for potty training boys and most of them could work for girls too.
1. Do not stress and do not rush
This one is for mommies. I know how stressful and expensive the diaper phase is for kids, but let me tell you, every child is different and he eventually gets it at his own pace.
Do not stress, you would not see any 20 years old peeing his pants (only if he doesn’t have a medical condition).
Give your boy some time to be able to understand the concept. I would suggest you wait if you think your child is not ready.
2. Are YOU ready to potty train?
This one is for mommies. Are you mentally and physically ready to potty train? It requires patience, energy, perseverance and a lot of determination. If you are expecting another child, it is ideal to wait depending on the circumstances and the configuration of your house.
You do not want to run around with a toddler all the way up and down.
3. Is your child ready to be potty trained?
You have to see if your child is ready. Is he able to understand the concept? Is he getting somewhere when you started this whole potty training thing?
If your child is not showing any signs of readiness then wait for another couple more months and try again later.
From my experience, you will know in a day or two if he is ready or not. If yes, continue, but if your child is not ready, do not bother to pursue. It would take up so much energy, time, accidents, patience and sometimes still gets nowhere.
The most significant sign of your child is not ready, he seems super scared with a toilet seat or flushing sound.
Also, he is scared of sitting on the seat with a fear to fall down. In that case first, you have to get your child familiar with a toilet seat.
You may notice your child jumps off the couch, bed, or a chair, all of a sudden (where he was sitting) and stay standing for a while, which means it’s a wee time. It also means he now understands the urge to pee.
In addition to that, once you notice, your child is showing one or two signs of being ready for potty training, you should start explaining to him how this process going to work. Try to make up his mind for this whole new adventure for the next couple of months and then start over.
This would help him get hands-on experience with something much awaited. Also, do not forget to motivate him with an exciting reward in the end.
Another most important sign, your child wants to stay clean. If he tells you to change a diaper as soon as he is done with a business, it implies dirty diaper is bothering him now.
Get him these awesome and super helpful potty training books.
4. No big event coming up when you start potty training
Start potty training when you do not have any big thing coming up because you need to have a whole two months of time-frame at least, to have your child learn this peeing and pooping skill.
For instance, if your child is expecting a sibling arrival, then it is a good time to wait, or you may want to try attempting, (if he is 3+) there is a chance he would get it depending on his age and understanding level.
“Keep trying” is the key, you never know when it is your lucky day.
5. Have your child get familiar with a toilet seat
My son was scared of the toilet seat, and I ordered the small toilet seat for him to have him get familiar with toilet seat thingy.
He would sit there but would not do ANYTHING.
However, you can use this potty training seat with a step ladder to have them get to the seat easily depending on the configuration of your bathroom.
6. Do not use training pants the whole day except nights
Put on diaper at night in the beginning and see if it is wet or dry when he wakes up in the morning. Take it off first thing in the morning and do not put it on till the night.
You can have him wear an easy to pull off shorts during the daytime until he learns it. If you want you can skip underwear or briefs for the whole potty training phase.
Tip: If you are starting around 2.5 to 3 years of age do not start with anything that makes him feel dry even after having a pee or poop accident.
Another super helpful tip: If your child poops in a training pull up diaper, Just tear or cut the diaper from the sides to avoid mess all over your child’s legs.
7. Start during a favorable Weather
You may want to choose summer season to potty train over the winter season. During the winter season, you cannot have him stay all day long bare legs or wear shorts.
8. Time bathroom trips at regular intervals in the beginning
When you start with the process, take him to the toilet every 15 minutes and gradually increase the time. Have him sit and ask him to pee. He may not be doing it for the first time but keep trying.
If he pees bring him again in another 15 minutes and so on.
If he doesn’t for the first time, you may want to try after 5 minutes again and then start timing.
Gradually increase the time to 20 to 30 minutes and then an hour with a first few days of potty training.
Stay consistent with this and keep doing this method for 4 to 5 days in the beginnings. Once you are confident that he understood this concept, stretch the pee time to 2 hours.
Mind you, you may have to remind him to go pee and take him along for the next couple of months.
Sometimes you stop reminding and think he would tell you, in that case, accidents are very likely.
Always teach him to sit first and then have him learn how to pee while standing. If you would not teach him to sit and pee, there is a less chance of him pooping in the toilet. Also, make sure he points his penis down while sitting on the toilet seat.
Learning to poop may take time and sometimes it is a hit or miss. Always encourage to sit on the toilet seat.
9. When to remove night time diapers
When you think your child has got pee and poop concept pretty well, and he is waking up with dry diapers, you may want to remove it altogether.
You may want to take him to pee in the middle of the night once he learns how to pee while standing. Also, take him to go pee, first thing in the morning.
Learning this skill takes time but kids get it eventually.
10. Protect your bed and sofas
For night time, use waterproof mattress pads for kids to protect your bed from accidents. However, you can take him to the toilet in the middle of the night once he is trained enough.
If you are co-sleeping, you need a waterproof mattress pad for your bed too.
Protect your sofas with waterproof sofa covers.
Let me tell you, with diapers, it is all dry and clean feel all the time, a couple of accidents are helpful to understand the concept of being wet.
11. Monitoring facial expressions and being on top of his schedule
You really have to be on top of your toddler’s pee schedule. You have to remind every half an hour to two hours. Gradually increase the time interval depending on how your toddler is responding to this new thing.
You have to keep an eye on your child’s facial expressions to understand when and what action is required.
12. Not going back to diapers
Once your child is diaper-free for a couple of weeks and doing well, do not go back to diapers for your own convenience, like in travel or change of place. Unless you do not have access to any bathroom or public restrooms.
If your child is old enough to understand the concept, bringing back diapers would confuse him even more. However, this does not mean that you keep him diaper free in extreme cases when he should not be. Be your own judge and decide what you think is your child’s best interest.
Instead of using diapers, you can use these lightly padded training pants.
13. Ditch diapers altogether
As a general rule, If you are starting potty training when your child is above 3 years old, I would highly recommend you to take off his diaper completely except for the nights.
However, once your child gets trained, you should involve him in ditching the diapers altogether. Have him donate it to someone, a friend’s younger child and do not forget to celebrate this big achievement with him.
14. If he is not getting it, be patient, and try again after a few weeks
When your child is in the process of learning this new skill, be considerate, patient and do not get mad at your kid even if it ends up with an accident.
It takes time to learn a new skill of peeing and pooping. Learning to hold on to pee and poop may take time. Being upset would do no good but harm.
15. What to do when you are going outside – Explore different bathrooms
I would recommend start going to places when you are in the potty training phase and your child is responding positively to this new thing. This will help him understand this in a better way.
When kids are on this potty training journey they might want to see toilets everywhere they go, not to pee just for fun. If your child says “I need to go pee”, take him, otherwise you can distract him with something else when you know he has no urgency (depends on liquid intake).
16. Liquid intake more or less
Well, this whole potty training thing varies as per your child’s liquid intake. If your child drinks plenty of water, expect more frequent bathroom trips and more chances of wet bed at night.
You can control moderate liquids intake (more or less) during this potty training phase.
17. Pooping in the toilet could be challenging
Some boys may take more time to start pooping in the toilet. They just want to have a diaper on for poop. No matter what, they would not want to use the toilet.
In that case, you may want to wait for your child to feel ready to do it.
Even if that seems impossible, just give him some time and he would get it before you even know it. Moreover, you have to encourage him to first sit down and then pee. Chances are he may not be able to resist a bowel movement any longer.
Kids love water, you can use a hand-held bidet or a watering can to wash their bottom instead of wiping it with a toilet paper. Trust me, this will be so exciting for them and would be willing to come to use the toilet.
18. Lots of appreciation or Reward system
Appreciate your child extravagantly when he pees or poops for the first time and every proceeding episode. This will help him feel encouraged and create a willingness to learn faster.
- You can offer him candy, or a toy as a reward.
- Create more excitement with some fun shorts.
- Celebrate his success with balloons.
Potty training Regression
Potty training regression gets real when your child may get back to diapers after being fully trained and have frequent accidents during the day. There are a number of factors that lead to potty training regression.
- Change of place – you may have moved on to a new place lately.
2. New sibling- your child feels he is getting less attention due to a new baby in the family.
3. Guests around- if there are some guests in your house and somehow your child feels strange about it.
4. Traveling – Sometimes due to traveling, potty training does not seem to be working the way it used to.
5. School: Starting school and dealing with a new environment could be one of the reasons for this potty training regression.
If your child goes to school or expected to start school any time soon, you must be aware of the signs of anxiety, which is known to be a common behavior among preschool-aged kids. Here is what you need to know about frequent urination after being fully potty trained.
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